8 Simple Ways to Enjoy Loneliness

feelings of lonelinessWhen I was young I hated being alone. It made me feel like a loser and I was always with different people in order to avoid that.  There were times, when some friends were out of town, others were busy, etc. That’s when I was going to movies, pubs and doing shopping just to be surrounded by people. And in ”worst” times, when I was home alone I was turning on the TV or radio in order to kill the silence. So that was one of the extremes I was at…

Many years later I had a ”career” at telecom. During those days I saw so many people, received so many calls, had so many meetings and spoke so much that it became too much. After few years all I wanted was to be alone for at least few minutes. I had no time for myself, no time for silence and relaxation. I was so tired back home that I had no energy left for my family. Phone ringtones irritated me; crowded places were getting on my nerves… I had reached the second extreme…

Today I have more balanced life. I am surrounded by people I like and have a balance between family, loneliness and socializing. I guess, I am somewhere in the middle.

After being in both extremes now I understand that the time when one is alone may be very valuable.  After all there are a lot of things to do when you are lonely and sometimes some alone time is what you need to get to the next level. Feelings of loneliness can be painful, yet when you learn to convert loneliness to solitude, you’ll see how it can empower you.

It was Paul Tillich who said: “Loneliness expresses the pain of being alone and solitude expresses the glory of being alone”.

You can combat loneliness by turning it into solitude and then it might become your greatest gift. Here is why..

You hear your inner voice

Your inner voice is always there and it always tells something, but when your attention is somewhere else you may not hear it. Once you are alone with your inner voice you will be able to hear and understand its message. And usually it knows what it says.

You can concentrate on your task

You will not be distracted by anything when you are alone and will be able to complete the writing, which needed concentration, focus and creativity.

You can feel the importance of someone

Yes, most of the times you know how you feel about the person. But when he is not with you, you get the chance of feeling how much you miss him, how important he is to you and how good it is to have him in your life.

You can hear the silence

Have you noticed how much noise is around you most of the time? The traffic, the TV, phones ringing in the office, the hateful alarm clock in the morning… Now you finally have the chance of listening to the silence and enjoying its sound.

You can dream

In the busy pace of the week day you usually have no time for daydreaming. Now, that you’re finally alone you can visit your dreams, visualize them and eventually get closer to their realization.

You can locate your place

Most probably you know where you wanna be and which goals you want to achieve. Now you can evaluate current situation and see where you stand at the moment. Turn on your life GPS and see the route it shows.

You can read

Watching movies/football/etc. together is fun! Discussing events/people and books is also fun. But reading a book (blog) is something you have to do alone. So this is a perfect time to grab your book and enjoy it!

You can recharge

Most probably you wouldn’t like to be alone all the time. But now that you are, it is the best time to recharge with positive thoughts and energy in order to be at your best when you are around people!

So next time when you are alone, don’t panic and don’t feel like a loser. Enjoy the loneliness and benefit from it!

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42 Responses

  1. Anna says:

    Keep your balance and centre . Have fun with each step you take.

    • Ani says:

      Thanx Anna! Doing my best :)

    • Anna says:

      An jan es el em dranov ancel. Exela pah, vor ashxatanqic durs em ekel, hamarelov, vor petq e jamanak unenam im erexaneri, yntaniqi hamar, im hachuyqneri, mtacmunqneri hamar.
      Ayjm aynpes e vor eli chunem shat jamanak ayd ameni hamar, bayc erb erexanery mecanum en ev aprum irenc kyanqov, balansy haraberakcutyuny poxvel e ev erexanery mi qich aveli qich masn en kazmum, isk sepakan hetaqrqrutyunneri shrjanaknery kisvel en ashxatanqi ev ancnakan pahanchmunqneri mej.
      Ays pahi drutyamb karces es balanci mej em. Tesnenq hetagayum inchpes ayn kpoxvi.

      • Ani says:

        Anna jan,

        Balance-ner@ @st kyanqi puleri misht el poxvelu en. Karevor@ na e vor qo prioritetnern u aprelakerp@ irar het balance-i mej linen :)

  2. i like this new design :)
    i always like to be alone because it’s quiet and peaceful
    Noch Noch

  3. ohhh loving it! I agree it took me a long time to be able to spend time alone, even just an hour. And just last year was the first time EVER that I have lived alone, awesome experience.

    Hearing my inner voice is definitely the best reason for spending time alone!

  4. Diana says:

    I know what loneliness is. There were years of loneliness I used for self-development, reading, working and gathering material for my PhD in Russian Literature. Of course, none of us appreciates this sacrifice for inner growth during the period of extreme loneliness, but when it’s over, you really feel satisfied. Probably the price for the satisfaction is too high, but it’s all worth that.

  5. Kaylee says:

    Oh I loooove being alone. Most people don’t get why though – thanks for providing me a nice list of reasons why solitude is a-okay. :) Peace!

    • Ani says:

      Kaylee, thanx for commenting. I love being by myself too… otherwise I start forgetting who I am and what I really want.

  6. Melanie says:

    I prefer to think of being alone as solitude. For me, there’s a difference to being alone and being lonely.

  7. Tamara says:

    I am alone now. I am trying to learn to enjoy it like everyone says but being even unhappily married for 10 years it is very hard to get use to being alone. I just have to face this is my future. I run off ever male I meet. Maybe I was meant to be alone.

    • Ani says:

      Dear Tamara,

      If you were not happy in your marriage, then being alone for a while is better. It seems very bad at the beginning, but I am sure you will get used to it. And don’t forget that it’s a temporary stage and you are alone now in order to be free when you meet your second half with whom you will be happy!!!

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