Your Path to Greatness

 Editor’s Note: This is a contribution by Ben Newman

Success is defined in different ways by different people, but more and more it has become synonymous with money and status.  Real success, however, is less about results or a bottom line, and more about the process of achieving goals and dreams.

Many business people today are overwhelmed by the need to maintain results-driven success.  Once we decide that the results are all that matter, then success comes at high price.  We find ourselves making sacrifices and compromises that were once unacceptable.  We trade today for some future payoff.  When that payoff comes, we realize it can never be enough.  And, when the results we work so hard for don’t materialize, we label that failure.  It’s an impossible model to sustain for a lifetime.

Fortunately, there is another way.

In my book, Own YOUR Success, I contrast results-driven success with a much more balanced approach.  The key principles are ones that anyone can put into practice immediately.

The first principle is Attain Belief in Yourself, which I break into five keys:

  1. Accept the truth.  Acknowledging the person you are today is the key to becoming the person you want to be and, ultimately, to attaining belief in yourself.  There is a big difference between failing and not getting the results we want.  Instead of seeing failure, see opportunities for growth and change.
  2. Speak the truth.  Be honest about your past behaviors and habits.  While it may be difficult to acknowledge them, burying those parts of our lives makes us feel like victims, amplifying our fear and pain.  Shedding light on the past, by talking with a trusted friend or professional, frees us.
  3. Breathe through the truth.  Avoid reacting from a place of pain or anger – no matter how much you believe you are right.   Be open to changing your perspective.  Treat yourself lovingly.  Do not self-destruct.
  4. Process the truth.  Give yourself time and space to find your equilibrium.  Developing belief in yourself means gaining confidence that will lead to a stronger foundation.
  5. Create a plan based on the truth.  Changing entrenched behaviors and mindsets takes time, and sometimes they return.  Stay strong.  Continue to believe and actively engage in this process.  Define how you want to live your life from where you are right now.

Once you attain belief in yourself, you can believe in others – as all great leaders do.  Use meditation and mindfulness to gain focus and clarity.  This allows you to act with purpose, intention, and awareness at all times.

The second principle is Act with Courage and Integrity.

Whether you are the CEO, in middle management, or in an entry level position, when you act with courage and integrity, it inspires others to do the same.  A big part of that is appreciating all people and the selfless acts and sacrifices they make every day.

The third principle is Create Your Prizefighter Day – Do Great Things!

Each day set three attainable activity goals: one personal, one professional, and one to help others.  By taking action in these three areas every day, you make each day victorious.  The victory is not in the results, but in the actions themselves.  Even if what you do doesn’t turn out perfectly, as you may have hoped, the experience of accomplishment every day is a victory.

The fourth principle is Create a Living Legacy.

Surrender to a cause greater than yourself.  Find your passion and live it every day.  Work diligently toward your goal.  Fight for what you believe in despite the obstacles in your path.  Don’t wait to leave a legacy after you’re gone.  Live that legacy every day.

About Ben Newman

High performance sales expert Ben Newman is a distinguished author, international speaker and coach from St. Louis. In 2012, The Napoleon Hill Foundation recognized Ben as one of the TOP 51 speakers & thought leaders in the World! Ben is a 4-time author and his latest book, Own YOUR Success: The Power to Choose Greatness and Make Everyday Victorious is a #1 Business Best-Seller and was ranked #2 in August 2012 by 800.CEO.READ for “What Corporate America is Reading.”. He is also the author of Fight the Good Fight, Pocket Truths for Success & Pocket Principles for the Insurance Business. For more information please visit

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9 Responses

  1. Patti says:

    It is compelling that the first principle deals with truth and learning to recognize, accept, and live your own truth. The second principle includes integrity which would be another perspective of truth.
    Living and making decisions from a place of truth is very empowering.
    I appreciate the third principle, too, of making sure that you are keeping all three areas in focus, yet not expecting perfection, just focusing on the energy of creating the action. I’m going to have to take a look at your new book!
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  2. Bobbi Emel says:

    Ani, thanks for having Ben as a guest! Really enjoyed the post, Ben. Thanks so much for sharing your wisdom!
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  3. Each day set three attainable activity goals: one personal, one professional, and one to help others.

    I really like this concept! I think that I need to add this clear definition to my daily planning
    Lori Lynn Smith recently posted…3 Steps to remove Negative ThoughtsMy Profile

  4. Amit Amin says:

    Fantastic principles. I especially like – each day, complete “one personal, one professional, and one to help others.”

    I frequently set and complete goals, but I never thought of making progress in the 3 import places in my life every day. That’s a really good idea – it will probably help me think I’ve spent my day well, as well as making each day itself a bit better.
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  5. Perfect timing. I am working with a business coach and asked to answer many questions about my goals, etc. I keep coming back to working with integrity and building a plan based on “my truth”. Thanks for this guest post – really enjoyed it.
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