It was Washington Irving who said:
A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials heavy and sudden fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends desert us; when trouble thickens around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavor by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts.”
I bet you can’t differ.
For most of us, our mothers are our world for the first few years of our lives. Then for years, they become this sanctuary, like in the quote above, where we all run to when we feel insecure.
Even as they (as well as we) age, and when we are far away from them busy with our lives, we long in our hearts to get back to the warmth of hug, to have the food that she makes and to nestle next to her on the couch.
Great food, good laughter, awesome genes and then..
And it’s not just great food and good laughter and their own genes that they give us. A lot of life’s lessons are learned from our mothers.
Through words, actions and most of the time in ways only mothers can, they pass on wisdom, life skills and values to us. A little or a lot, there is a bit of our moms in all of us.
This thought led me to wonder what each of the awesome personalities that we see around must have learned from their mothers. And what better way to know that than to ask them!
So I asked 6 awesome people,excellent coaches and bloggers whom I’ve followed online, to reveal a thing or two that their mothers have taught them.
It was so beautiful an experience to read their replies. All the love for their moms were there in those words.
Here are the replies, in the order I received them.
Dave Booda (Know more about Dave at boodaism.com)
My mother is one of the most complex and wonderful women I have ever met. When I ask myself what she has taught me, I realize that her impact on me hasn’t been through parables or lessons, but her ability to communicate to me what her life is like so I can get a glimpse into the world of all mothers.
This week is actually very special for me. I’m home for my sister’s wedding and I’ve been able to spend a lot of time with my mom. It’s been a roller coaster of wedding-related stress and excitement about having the whole family together.
Yesterday we were washing dishes together in the kitchen and out of the blue she turned, hugged me and said through her tears “I feel like I’m losing my daughter”. My heart melted. I don’t know what it takes for a mother to open up to her kids like that but I was so grateful for the experience. Her ride through life hasn’t been easy, and it’s still not easy, but she is a warrior for love.
The strongest force in the world is a mother’s love for her child. It’s more powerful than an earthquake, more potent than a bolt of lightning and more consistent than the waves of the ocean. It’s like nothing else, and being able to experience that magnificent love from my mother is something I’m forever grateful for.”
Meron Bareket (Know more about Meron at meronbareket.com)
The most important thing I learned from my mother is the undeniable power of a smile. Throughout my childhood, she never missed an opportunity to show me how a kind word to a stranger can brighten up their day.
Today, I owe her my ability to befriend strangers anywhere I go. Creating everlasting relationships with people who others would so easily miss out on is a skill that has helped me tremendously, and a legacy I look forward to passing on.”
Cathy Presland. (Know more about Cathy at authorunlimited.com)
My mother taught me to always believe in myself and believe that I could do anything I set my mind to.
My mum passed away last year and one of my friends remarked that she had been a woman ahead of her time. She grew up in wartime, lived and loved through the rationing years and always made the best of everything. She loved to have fun and she chose to always see the best in people.”
Tim Brownson. (Know more about Tim at adaringadventure.com)
My mom suffered from depression and anxiety issues for much of her later life. Consequently I developed GAD (generalized anxiety disorder) by modeling her behavior when I was younger and have to manage it daily with meditation and exercise, amongst other things.
Too many people focus on the negative traits they adopted from their parents. But I also got my sense of humor from my mom and no would would I swap.
So I guess she taught me to take the rough with the smooth and go with what is rather than looking to blame others for our shortcomings. We’re all human, we all have shortcomings.”
Ani Alexander. (Know more about Ani at anialexander.com. Of course Ani needs no introduction to regular readers of this blog. For those of you who are new, Ani is the founder and previous owner of the Life Probabilities Blog)
My mother taught me to always be positive and optimistic.
No matter what happens she is never discouraged and always believes that everything will be fine. Whenever I feel low she reminds me about the good things in my life and makes sure that I pull myself together.”
Vidya Sury. (Know more about Vidya at vidyasury.com)
She said: ‘Always believe in yourself, and keep a positive, smiling attitude. It will motivate you to be your best self.
Life is about being happy, and you have the power to control your own happiness. Be kind, no matter what. Remember that love conquers all!’ ”
The amount of wisdom in the above paragraphs is huge!
I’m so happy for these happy sons and daughters for they have really taken these lessons to be really good at what they do. And like their mothers, they are passing it on. And not just to their kids, but to a whole lot of people through their blogs, podcasts and coaching.
And if you ask me about one thing I learned from my mother, I’d say it is the art of balancing work and life.
Looking back, I can see clearly how she managed the activities in our home to ensure that my dad, we kids – my sister and me, and her full-time job each got attention and enough care from her.
And I’ve also learned not to run from my problems, but to face them boldly and see them melt away.
Thank you mom.
I hope you loved reading these responses as much as I did. Final verdict: Moms rock!
For all the mothers out there,
We’d love to hear from you too. Please tell us in the comments about the things that you learned from your mother.
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